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this post was submitted on 27 Oct 2023
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It’s October. Just meet some cool people at a pumpkin patch.
You have to be willing to walk up and introduce yourself, and also willing to deal with the risk of rejection. That fear of rejection piece leads people to make decisions that protect their egos but also leave them lonely or isolated
Simple but not easy...
Really easy after enough practice to overcome that fear of rejection. But yes, someone who feels anxiety about the potential for rejection is probably going to struggle to just jump in and talk to strangers
I'm not afraid of being rejected I just can't do small talk. It takes me time to figure out how to respond to something which usually causes an awkward silence for others but I've gotten used to it. If I do go up to someone and speak chances r that beyond that first sentence that I had already planned out I won't be able to say anything else beyond "mmm" so how do I solve that?
People live talking about themselves. If you get them talking by asking some genuine questions, they'll go for it. Iirc this is a good video to explain it briefly: https://youtu.be/vU-ibdHkz4Y?si=AgoPUH873IjpYJ0a
Don't forget though, you're there to get to know folks. Not turn them into a science project or run a specific method. It's okay to stumble over words or say you've had trouble making new friends lately (and leave it at that). People like helping innately if you ask or are a little vulnerable
"Do you like toast too!?"