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[-] moshankey@lemmy.world 64 points 1 year ago

For the past 30 or so years I can truly write that only my wife hits those three marks. And she’s there doing it everyday. I adore her.

[-] Papanca@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago

Yesterday.

And i make it a point to make sure i make everyone i meet feel heard and seen. So, i might wave at people collecting garbage, i make eye contact with the cassier en give them a warm smile, while wishing them a nice day. I might smile at random strangers in the street. I have had beautiful experiences doing this, and quite frequently people give me this startled look and then hesitantly smile back. And i do this sincerely, because i truly belief most people have a hard time already and i want to give them at least a nice moment in the day.

It makes life so much better. For people i meet and for myself as well.

[-] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Honestly, this can be very much be done and people crave it. People crave being noticed and affirmed and getting to engage with others on more than just a superficial level (as long as you respect their boundaries and recover if you faux pas at some point). People can be very gracious/graceful when someone reaches out to them in this way and will often "play-along" because I've noticed basically everyone refuses to be the first one to step out of their comfort zone and take a chance pal-ing around with a stranger but I can find a way to make most people comfortable and maybe even get a chuckle or 10.

Its been very good news for me and the good news for you is you can too, if only you do this ONE weird trick strangers love

[-] HerbalGamer@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago

I might smile at random strangers in the street.

yeah that would make me nervous

[-] Papanca@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Usually, the nervous people won't make eye contact. And it's not really an 'in your face' contact i make, i try to be a bit subtle about it, if that makes sense. I never had anyone react as if it was unpleasant. For the record, it's not like i am this extravert person, i am very introverted and i had to learn this. But it was worth it.

[-] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

As long as its super toothy, its cool. Its cool to have teeth and the more, the merrier 😬

[-] 0485919158191@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Sounds like we have the same wife! High five

[-] moshankey@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Mine’s taller. But if not, she’s truly wonderful. Enjoy her.

[-] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 7 points 1 year ago

I could say the same if I had a wife

[-] TheGreenGolem@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

One could say...I would also choose that guy's wife.

this post was submitted on 29 Oct 2023
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