So the rock bottom thing, it comes from the AA idea that people are helpless to fix themselves and must submit to god/a higher power. It's completely untrue that you must hit anything and plenty get help very early on having realised they have an issue.

This is a more detailed breakdown - https://www.smartrecovery.org/the-flawed-psychology-of-forcing-people-to-hit-rock-bottom/

An abstinence only approach has also been debunked. Again, it comes from the AA teachings that you are powerless. Some people may choose abstinence for a wide range of reasons, it sounds like it's worked for you and thats ace but it's not the only approach to problematic drinking and many succesful programs now work on moderation or other methods of reduction.

This study found that abstinence and reduction programs have similar levels of success - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33188563/

The powerlessness comment, I think I've covered through the other points.

Finally, this article I think covers the points I've missed (and the ones I haven't tbf) - https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/04/the-irrationality-of-alcoholics-anonymous/386255/