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/c/café daily chat thread for 14 July 2023
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Welcome to our virtual third place, The Café.
Come on in and make a new human connection over a cup of coffee (or Teh Tarik). This is a casual community, do whatever you want, share your oyen pics, your frustrations, and even organize a weekend picnic with the community. The world is your oyster.
Rules are simple, be kind and civil with each other. As with any other café, rude patrons will be kicked out.
omg i was typing a long ass comment but accidentally cancelled and now it's gone. Here I go retyping it.
The commenters here are right, but so are your parents.
Exercise regulates your hormones and keeps your hunger in check. But after exercising, you're gonna be hungrier than usual. Just make sure you're eating what you normally do. Drinking more plain water might help prevent overeating.
You're a woman so you have hormones that make you crave certain types of food. Give in to those cravings, but keep it in moderation - you want to satisfy your craving, not eat a whole meal of them. E.g. if you're craving chocolate, grab one or two small cubes and eat them slowly. If you're craving fried chicken, have a couple of wings or a drumstick but not too much more. If you suppress it, you're gonna stress yourself out which messes up your metabolism or your productivity.
I have a wall of text typed up which I'll put in a following comment, but you can ignore it because lots of people give diet/exercise advice but you should avoid information overload. Work on yourself little by little and don't feel obliged to apply every advice in your life right away. You can always come back and re-read later.
The wall of text:
I think you should continue to eat whatever you want like your parents say, but not however much you want. You're reducing your carb intake which is a good step! It's much better than completely cutting out carbs because your mind and body are gonna stress out over sudden diet changes.
A very difficult habit you could try to learn is to eat until you're satisfied, and not until you're full. If you'd like to start, it will help if you focus purely on eating when you're having your meals. That means no phones, no work, no TV - anything that causes you to mindlessly put food into your mouth because it makes you lose track of your fullness. You can kinda still do the above, but when you're performing the action of putting food in your mouth and chewing your food make sure to focus purely on those actions and yourself.
Also learn to be okay with not emptying your plate. It's a habit a lot of us learn as kids, but we should stop thinking about the kids in Africa because it's not our fault they're not getting food. And if you're worried about the farmers who painstakingly grew our rice, they have more machines that help them these days anyway.
With regards to snacking, obviously you should minimize it, but don't completely avoid it. Some tips are:
The easiest way to avoid guilt is to put the leftovers in the fridge, wait 2 weeks, then throw it away. The guilt is spread out across 2 weeks. It's like paying installments!
That's a new perspective on snacking that I've never thought of before. Thanks for the detailed writeup! I definitely got extra stress from trying to restrain myself from snacking. When I'm stressed because of work, my appetite increases a lot but then I know I can't eat because I need to control my diet, which adds to even more stress.