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We raise our children to treat people the way they want to be treated and to share their toys with others.
That doesn't happen as adults though. Everyone has their own things and we need to be skeptical of certain people.
I don't force my children to share with others and our main rule is to not hurt your family.
Huh. I raised my children to treat people the way they want to be treated and to share their toys with others. As teens and adults they've tended to cultivate friend groups of supportive, welcoming people. I consider them extended family, and if someone has a need we should be available to help.
The people they're skeptical of are the "I've got mine, fuck you" types.
"Certain people" huh? Interesting.
People with nefarious intent.
Ah I wonder what indicators you use when you first meet people to immediately judge if they are worthy or not. What subtle deep in your mind factors decide if someone deserves it.
ITT A bunch of you think you're dunking on a dog-whistle blowing racist
I guess no one here has ever met someone whom they gave the benefit of the doubt that ended up being the wrong read.
When did they say they judge them at face value? You know it's possible for people to be skeptical after talking with them for a few minutes and assessing them based on who they are?
If you're well-attuned to social interaction you can sniff out con men within minutes, they give off the same weird vibes that religious nutter butters do when trying to convert you, or MLM/Pyramid scammers when trying to recruit you.
Thank you.
It's interesting how my detractors are making the definition of skepticism = "immediately judge someone."
I think the defining difference is whether that sharing extends to just friends and family, or if it becomes more egalitarian and extends to everyone. From my experience, Republicans tend to stop at the former, and Democrats tend to stop at the latter. There is also usually differences in what they're willing to share to both parties, namely money.
How many Republicans do you know? Pretty broad brush you're painting with. I find that Democrats are more than generous... with other people's money.
Can we PlEASE stop pretending these political "memes" are anything other than pro left propaganda? I get that the majority of Lemmy is packed with left leaning, if not hardcore far-leftists, but sometimes someone who just wants liberty might want to chuckle at something, and comrade Earnhardt isn't funny.
Now I'll just sit back and watch the hate pour in.
The first 35 years of my life I was surrounded by nothing but Midwestern American conservatives, with splashes of evangelical Christians in the mix. I was raised that we should love our neighbors, give to the poor and needy, work hard, and or needs would be met. When I was no longer a child the clarifications started to creep in. I should love and help others, but only if they really deserved it. Who deserved it had a long list of unspoken qualifiers. If my needs weren't being met, I must not be working hard enough, even if that meant working 2 jobs and my health suffering for it.
In my 30s I had the opportunity to meet people outside my bubble, and what do you know - I started recognizing the hypocrisy I was raised with and living, and finally started to grow as a person.
I live in Florida, surrounded by red and I'm from a red state/area. To be clear, I think it's PERFECTLY VALID to hold the thought "my money and stuff are mine and I should have a say who gets to use it". And to your point about democrats: yeah that's effectively what I mean. Universal health care and paying for college are publicly funded from....other people's money. Most Republicans I've talked to wish we had either or both, but balk when taxes are raised. They would rather be the ones to decide who gets a portion of their paycheck from an understandable hesitancy to have the government be the one to decide who gets the money. Republicans see that prudence as necessary, and most democrats I know see that as an unwillingness to contribute to the "greater good".