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What are some green flags in a partner in your opinion? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 11 months ago by Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I'll start: if they have hobbies it's a green flag for sure, doubly so if their hobbies are outlets for creativity.

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[-] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 11 months ago

Leftist political ideals, people who like cats, having similar sense of humor to me

[-] BestBouclettes@jlai.lu 2 points 11 months ago

Liking cats can be a good indicator on how they understand and see consent. 👍

[-] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 11 months ago

Yea also I like people who like cats because I like cats 👍

[-] burliman@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Interesting thought, but I wouldn’t say these are dependent on each other at all.

[-] BestBouclettes@jlai.lu 3 points 11 months ago

Well it's obviously not an absolute truth, more of a good rule of thumb I think. It also depends on the reason they don't like cats in the first place.

[-] FishFace@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Come on, I prefer cats but the reason people prefer dogs is because they do consent to the kinds of interaction dog-lovers want to have with their pets. If someone doesn't like cats because cats often don't want to be petted all the time it just means that person wants a pet who wants to be petted.

Also I do things to my cats without their consent all the time: I give them medicine they don't want, I use a vacuum cleaner, and I move them from places I don't want them to be. They are animals, not humans, and how I interact with them is not a model for how I interact with humans.

[-] BestBouclettes@jlai.lu 1 points 11 months ago

It's a rule of thumb, not an absolute truth.

[-] FishFace@lemmy.world -1 points 11 months ago

I'm not interpreting you as believing it's an "absolute truth" I'm saying it doesn't seem like it would bear any relationship whatsoever. You are still saying that as a rule of thumb dog-lovers are less likely to respect people's (lack of) consent than cat-lovers. That's insane.

Let's be real about it: being a cat or dog person can tell you something about a person's personality and hence give you a hint about whether you'll get on with them. A green flag should first of all be universal, not dependent on the person considering it, and second it should actually be a reasonably accurate indicator.

[-] jpreston2005@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

actually they didn't say anything about dog owners. You're reaching for an argument where none exists.

hmph. must be a dog owner

[-] FishFace@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Feel replace to replace "dog" with "non-cat" in my comment; it's just as valid.

[-] lucullus@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 11 months ago

A dog will behave the same to interactions, that it doesn't like, as cats: Leaving, telling (with their respective sounds), scratching, biting. Change cats in your sentence to any animal that is able to interact with humans (fish is difficult for example) and I would agree.

[-] TheBlackLounge@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Liking cats and dogs are not mutually exclusive what's everyone on about?

[-] mojo@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

I don't see the connection

[-] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com -1 points 11 months ago

Neither does the cat IMO 😹

[-] mojo@lemm.ee 0 points 11 months ago

I don't see the connection

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