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What's the simplest thing humans are too dumb to grasp? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by TheBananaKing@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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You ever see a dog that's got its leash tangled the long way round a table leg, and it just cannot grasp what the problem is or how to fix it? It can see all the components laid out in front of it, but it's never going to make the connection.

Obviously some dog breeds are smarter than others, ditto individual dogs - but you get the concept.

Is there an equivalent for humans? What ridiculously simple concept would have aliens facetentacling as they see us stumble around and utterly fail to reason about it?

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[-] Bye@lemmy.world 46 points 11 months ago

Many people, including myself, are too dumb to understand that other people don’t value the same thing in us that we value in others.

You see them try and become what they like, in order to try to appeal to others. “Well I wish I got more attention, so I’m going to give tons and tons of attention to others”. “I wish someone would make a grand romantic gesture to me, so I’m going to do that to someone else”. That kind of thing.

This is sometimes called “fundamental attribution error” although I think that concept covers a bit more ground.

[-] JokklMaster@lemmy.world 31 points 11 months ago

This is not the fundental attribution error. The fundamental attribution error is seeing an action from a person and assuming it is a fundamental attribute of them. Literally in the name. E.g. you seem someone being rude in public so you assume they are a rude person. Meanwhile if you are rude in public you chalk it up to being in a bad mood as a result of something that happened to you, not because you are a rude person.

[-] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 months ago

It's really similar to the fundamental attribution error, though, as you can see if phrased this way: "I value $foo by a certain amount because I'm a human being, thus other human beings value $foo as much as I do".

[-] usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca 9 points 11 months ago

This is the most charitable interpretation of why guys send dick pics

[-] Bye@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

I think it’s exactly why they do it

[-] Noodle07@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

I'm a guy, I received unannounced boob pics, that EXACTLY what men sending dick pics want.

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