Are you obligate to financial support your relative who is not financial stable with your saving ? (lemmy.world)

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I live with my parents (both). I have job.
I did my share duty: I help pay family electricity/water bill, pay my brothers tution fee.
Currently, my salary is multiple time my living cost, so I can save more than half of my salary (no pay rent, no marry, no children)
My mum has a brotehr who is not financial stable. She help him (few time yearly, not one time, but yearly). She is very stress about this situation. => when she ask me and my dad to chip in, we both said nope, then ask her to give up on that money black hole. => really hurt our family relationship, because she refuse to do so.
That dude (my uncle) have family he has to support. If I chip in with my own salary, his children living standard will increase, they will have better future. It will cost me my spare salary (i will not able save like, 50% of my salary per month)
But I don't want to waste money. That money give away is like charity that I can never get back. I don't want to piggy back few dude on my back for years.

So, how do you think on this case.

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[-] darkan15@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I don't even know if there is a country where you are obligated to financially support a parent or even a brother under any circumstance.

If you support a parent or a direct sibling, it is only because you want to do it and, as others have said, should be done only if it's financially possible for you without sacrificing your wellbeing, decent living condition and future.

My dad left my mom when I was around 6 years old (I'm in my early 30 now), that person is just related with me by "blood" but he never supported me or my mom financially or in any other way. If he came to me now asking for any type of help, I would refuse without question. On the other hand, I owe everything I am to my mother, she sacrificed everything to give me the best path she could by herself. She is now close to retirement and in my country there is no way to live off savings or pension due to very hi inflation, so I will support her from that point forward in every way I can, but this is only because I feel that doing so is a way to be grateful of her taking care of me on her own and I want to give her back now that I'm able to.

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