Hi, fellow go player here!

You are not alone. I'm the strongest regular at my go club, and when I ask if people want to pay even or with handicap, they 90% of the time choose even. I love the handicap system because it makes both sides have a close game, which is inherently more fun for everyone. And skill progress can be seen when their handicap decreases. The most common complaint I've heard against handicaps is that it changes the game too much. It does in terms of joseki and openings, but the important stuff which actually decides games—direction of play, fighting, evaluation of the board—still very much applies.

I travelled to Japan recently and played three games at a go parlour. There was no asking for an even game. The stronger players said the handicap the game would be played with and that was that.

In my country, that probably would be seen as rude because we don't have that honour system. But maybe the solution is to just be more assertive and declare the handicap anyway. As a stronger player, people respect what I have to say, but I have never felt superior to anyone so I've always still asked. But if I say a handicap straight away, that respect means that people would probably just agree and play. And if they say that they'd rather play an even game instead, then we can! Maybe the solution is to make it opt-out instead of opt-in.