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Many guys don't realize but a spectrum lady is perfect. They get to the point, tell you when something is wrong, and are excellent listeners. They also have incredibly complex hobbies that seem really simple, like knitting or baking, that can pay off for helpers around them as snacks and gifts. If you ever felt you didn't find the person who speaks to you, think different.
As someone married to a spectrum lady, that description is absolutely not universal.
As someone who is a spectrum lady, yeah, we're not a stereotypical monolith..
Except for trains, right?
Yeah my wife has been playing minecraft for two weeks lol. Someday she may pick up one of those valuable hobbies, but idgaf and I’m not betting on it
And yeah, don’t skip on autistic women, I love two, but don’t fetishize them either
Oh, the old "I know somebody with X so everybody with X is the same" ...
Those attributes are an important part of what I like about her! Very direct, very plain to a fault. She has never and probably will never have an interest in playing interpersonal games. Zero drama. Loyal, because she doesn't like change. She's obsessive in her interests meaning we both easily get sufficient time to be our own person.
Sure, she's exceptionally sensitive about certain textures and sounds, but I understand because I'm the same way. Meeting her was like living a life where everyone speaks this language that I just wasn't born with, and finding someone else who is just as confused as I am was really validating.
So yes, I suggested that we marry, and she says yes you will suffice... which is perhaps the highest compliment she has ever paid me.
I was happy for you until that last line...oof.
Haha, well, I told my family that a person has to get to know her. She seems bitter at first but that's just how she is. Besides, they don't have to live with her. I do.
Not using her outward appearance, countenance, or facial expressions as indicative of her true feelings is part of the package. It takes getting used to, and it's not right for everyone.
"Sufficient" is her elation.
FWIW that totally made sense to me. When I read that, I caught my breath or my heart skipped a beat or something.
It sounds like the important missing context is that no one else had ever been sufficient before
Well shit, when you put it that way
Ok, but what about the most important thing? Are they freaks 😈
Gross
100% they thought they were being progressive with that take.
What is 'manic pixie girl' lol; dont objectify/generalize your partner, especially a neurodivergent one.
What in the world is a "spectrum lady". I have some friends who'd be interested in this adjective being assigned to a lady!