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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by trowaway4433@lemmy.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

Dating is odd to me. I do not really know what my motivations are. If I actually find someone. What then? What will we do? How different will our relationship be from a regular friendship (besides you know what). And should it be?

Should you be wanting to do other things with your SO then a very good friend?

What I'm getting at is, have you ever thought to someone: "They don't really want a relationship they just want a one particular friend with benefits."

I don't know if I'm rambling over here. But I'm really having difficulty digesting this one.

Edit: The reason I ask is because I'm thinking to start dating again but I don't know my end goal.

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[-] itscozydownhere@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago

Your end goal is falling in love

You’ll know when that happens

[-] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

First goal is finding friends. This sounds like a joke but I'm serious don't force a relationship. Meet people, get friends. If you align, you align. If not, you've made a friend. If not, you've learned what you don't like or learned what others don't like.

Make friends. Make a best friend. Then if a relationship blooms, at least it wasn't forced. You met and found out what you liked before hand.

[-] itscozydownhere@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Yeah. But it happened me a couple of times that I fell in love at first sight before even getting to know the person. Then I loved the person too. Maybe it won’t last. But sometimes it’s just pure chemistry in our brain. Never force a relationship of course. And love can blossom with time. But if you stay with a person and it just feels like a close friend, you are probably not in love. And should move on.

[-] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Been there in both instances. Live and learn!

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