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submitted 10 months ago by Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I feel like things on Lemmy were pretty chill several months ago, and that’s started to change.

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor. Now I get the sense that people have become quick to be negative, attack, and not be constructive.

Am I crazy in feeling like the vibe has changed?

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[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 233 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Worth noting, the number of people who come here "to escape authoritarian moderators". Nearly all of them were moderated for good reason.

I also don't think the presence of places like hexbear are doing us any favors.

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 87 points 10 months ago

You can see them jumping from Lemmy server to Lemmy server as they get banned from each.

Eventually, they'll just set up their own instances so they can bother people with impunity.

[-] themadcodger@kbin.social 64 points 10 months ago

And then we block that instance! Or it gets defederated.

[-] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 35 points 10 months ago

It would be super nice if users could block instances.

Like, I have no desire to see anything from the furry instance.

[-] mom@nom.mom 51 points 10 months ago

It became a thing in Lemmy 0.19 - as long as you're on an instance that has updated to that, it should be available to you. At the bottom of the settings page in the web ui, but if you use an app they might not expose that to you yet.

[-] davel@lemmy.ml 19 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I think that came with version 0.19.1 specifically.

[-] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 9 points 10 months ago

I hadn't realized it had been implemented yet since I don't use the browser. Thanks for the update!

[-] seathru@lemm.ee 10 points 10 months ago

You can on instances running .19 or newer. Settings -> Blocks -> then at the bottom is an option for blocking instances.

[-] Traegert@lemm.ee 7 points 10 months ago

Connect has been able to do that from the get go. As well as individual communities within instances.

[-] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 5 points 10 months ago

You can do this with certain apps, like Boost!

[-] reallyzen@lemmy.ml 3 points 10 months ago

Or Connect (Android)

[-] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 2 points 10 months ago

Huh, I guess I haven't tried it recently, because that's what I'm using.

[-] federalreverse@feddit.de 4 points 10 months ago

I think that's coming (or is it implemented already!?)?

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 5 points 10 months ago

I totally thought that was in 0.19 but I haven't actually seen that yet.

[-] seathru@lemm.ee 7 points 10 months ago

It's under Settings -> Blocks -> then down at the bottom is the block instances option.

[-] mom@nom.mom 5 points 10 months ago

If the apps don't have instance blocking yet, the webui does (in 0.19)... I haven't tested it, but it's there, at the bottom of my settings page 🙂

[-] ShittyKopper@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

the 0.19 implementation is so half-assed I genuinely think the Lemmy devs just don't want that functionality but expected quite a lot of backlash if they outright said as much, so they decided to implement something that ticks the box in the "wanted features" list without having any effect

afaik it only blocks communities and explicitly lets users from blocked instances through

[-] nutomic@lemmy.ml 20 points 10 months ago

Feel free to make open an issue to improve instance blocking. Or better yet a pull request. We are only a few devs with limited time, and hundreds of issues to work on.

[-] Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 10 months ago

Sorry for this kind of aggressivity

[-] davel@lemmy.ml 4 points 10 months ago
[-] mars296@kbin.social 3 points 10 months ago

This is possible on kbin.

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 10 months ago

...and then they spin up a new instance with a new domain...

Domains are unfortunately fairly cheap and it's not impossible to get a different IP assigned to a server box.

[-] psud@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

I don't mind costing them the effort or $10 for a new domain

Incidentally I have several domains with DNS provided by freedns.afraid.net, which allows sharing domains. Everyone who asks for a domain under any of mine just seems so very sketchy. Now I have to worry if they're a nazi looking for a new domain to get banned

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[-] 567PrimeMover@kbin.social 5 points 10 months ago

So there's going to be a fediverse and a mirror fediverse?

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 10 months ago

That was always a risk of decentralized services, unfortunately.

[-] psud@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

And the other one is the one with opposite facial hair

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 3 points 10 months ago

Isn't that basically what basedcount is?

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 10 months ago

I'm unfamiliar with it. Would you be so kind as to explain what you mean?

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 6 points 10 months ago

This guy
From the siderbar:

Avoid Censorship. Stay Based.

[-] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

You're describing Hexbear.

[-] Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world 48 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

The thing that actually worried me a little bit more was people upvoting the aggressive comments to be top comments.

I was reading some thread over at !politics@lemmy.world today, and a lot of stuff advocating for political violence were the top comments. Mods yanked it, but nevertheless, people were vibing with some comments about dragging people through the street. I felt like I was on X/Twitter.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 23 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Yeah, I think it's a legitimate and growing problem. I think a lot of folks don't realize, but since growth has slowed from Reddit more broadly, the people who feel they have been "unfairly silenced" are the fastest growing subpopulation around here. If I'm honest, I think the only real antidote is to reestablish growth from communities with kinder dispositions.

[-] exocrinous@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

We don't need to take from nicer communities, we need to build nicer communities. Right now there aren't any left wing instances, which is a big problem. It was nicer back when lib.lgbt existed.

[-] blackn1ght@feddit.uk 3 points 10 months ago

Lemmygrad or ml aren't left wing? The entire platform feels left wing as all anyone can ever say is how bad capitalism is.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 2 points 10 months ago

Right now there aren't any left wing instances

Bro what

Also it doesn't have anything to do with political distribution. It's an issue of habit and disposition.

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[-] d3Xt3r@lemmy.nz 17 points 10 months ago

I was reading some thread over at !politics

There you go, that's your problem. Political topics always gets heated and brings out the worst in people, no matter the platform. The first thing I did is block all politics (and general news + sports) communities, and it's been a fairly pleasant experience so far for me, except for the odd troll or fanboy that shows up every now and then.

[-] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 8 points 10 months ago

Lemmy.nz also defederated Hexbear, which helped a lot.

Technically they pulled a "you can't fire me, I quit" and defederated first, but whatever.

[-] DrRatso@lemmy.ml 5 points 10 months ago

Yea, they tend to do that, think they did the same with blaahaj. Pretty funny tbh.

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[-] kromem@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago

People like to fetishize revolution.

Even offline I have friends that talk that kind of way and just reveal themselves as being poor students of history.

[-] teawrecks@sopuli.xyz 10 points 10 months ago

You read my mind. It's the same feeling I got when a reddit sub would degrade into a toxic circle jerk, and I'd have to unsub. Except it feels like it's a lot of lemmy communities lately. I feel like I can't respectfully disagree with anyone without being met with ad hominem attacks. I don't think something like changemyview could survive.

Also reminds me of those anti-moderate subs, which is a sentiment literally synonymous with radicalization. I'm all for free speech, I would just rather they state whatever take they have with a calm, measured demeanor.

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[-] SorteKanin@feddit.dk 8 points 10 months ago

Well remember that any instance you federate with also gets to vote. If you feel like votes aren't matching your values, perhaps you should try an instance with more of the "aggressive" stuff defederated.

[-] Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world 9 points 10 months ago

Possibly, although those instances also have less content. I remember starting out with a BeeHaw account like many of us here. Trade off was often less content, no ability to create your own communities, but less people lashing out at each other.

[-] SorteKanin@feddit.dk 10 points 10 months ago

Beehaw is very selective though (and that's fine). There is a middle ground between lemmy.world and Beehaw though.

But you said elsewhere that you go on American political communities. I'm not American but from what I've seen, it is hardly surprising that those places would be toxic. I think at this point, arguing US politics online seems like a lost cause. You're probably better off discussing politics IRL.

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[-] Pratai@lemmy.ca 9 points 10 months ago
[-] Saik0Shinigami@lemmy.saik0.com 4 points 10 months ago

Indeed. And looking at the deleted post... definitely a power trip.

[-] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 4 points 10 months ago

Hexbear, Lemmygrad, and Lemmy.ml bring nothing of value to the community, in my view.

[-] pan_troglodytes@programming.dev 2 points 10 months ago
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