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Why do people keep asking where I'm from?
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this post was submitted on 20 Jan 2024
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Asking where you are from is pretty normal conversation, especially if you have a noticeable accent. Asking where your parents/grandparents/etc are from is less common. Are you by chance not-white? Sometimes these sorts of questions have a race element to them
Yeah, asking where someone's from is completely normal but asking where their parents/family is from automatically sets off some racism red flags
Asking where someone’s from is already racist. As white, no one ask me where I am from, or only in late conversation for specific reason. My non-white wife get this question every single time she met a new person.
I think I look pretty white, tbh
Well you either look or sound funny/different. I'd say since you get asked about grandparents etc it's not sound, so you don't look local Canadian.
You say you look "pretty" white, that's like how "not really" isn't a "no".
ok, but are you? what's your ethnicity? Just wondering.