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What's something you used to do/see/say but don't anymore because you don't feel it's right? (lemmy.world)

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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[-] paddirn@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago

I remember as a teen in the 90s in high school, doing a fake gay voice was considered funny and nobody thought twice about it. Even if the person wasn't actually targeting anyone LGBTQ+ specifically, just doing the voice seemed to insinuate the somebody was less than masculine. Like, Oh, the water isn't cold enough for you, let me repeat that request back in a gay voice to make fun of you.

I'm pretty sure if I even tried doing a fake gay voice at work now I would probably be shit-canned pretty quickly, which in a way goes to show how far society has come in not tolerating what would've just been crude humor in earlier times. I know the LGBTQ+ community has worked for decades to get to where they're at today, but it still feels kind of crazy how quickly society changed.

[-] Galluf@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure why you call it fake gay. While it's not universal, it's still common among gay men.

[-] paddirn@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I guess "fake gay" doesn't sound right, maybe "stereotypically gay" is more apt, like it was a thing to specifically "sound gay" and and say things to demean somebody. Like, yes, there are gay guys that sound stereotypically gay, but it's probably not right to mock a person using a voice like that. It'd be like mocking somebody with a stereotypically urban black person's voice ("ebonics" from way back), like yeah, some people do sound like that, but it's still not something you should be doing to mock people.

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