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Why do people keep asking where I'm from?
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Also autistic. I had the same thought about OP.
Before building my mask I was very similar (and probably pissed a lot of NTs off too lol).
I was in my 50s before I started understanding this stuff. Before that, I was married to a very gregarious man who was my social buffer. I could hide behind his small talk. But then he passed away and I was left twisting in the wind until I started to learn how to make small talk. Often I just ask myself what my husband would have said.
I was late ~~diagnosed~~ discovered as well. Early 30s.
I have a decent mask built up but it is really exhausting so I try not to use it if I don't have to.
On thing I've found about small talk is, people love to be told what day it is. Like they ask you "how's it going?" and you say back "well it sure is a Tuesday!" It's actually amusing how well it works.
That's good advice for someone who has a more outgoing partner who knows how to small talk.