this post was submitted on 21 Jan 2024
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100%. A "trick" I developed over time with this sort of thing was like... mentally "flipping" around my perspective of improving and being a better person.
As in, when I break a habit for a few days or even a few weeks, I used to be like "Oh no, I've regressed back into the person I was before I started this journey, and now I need to start again."
Whereas now, when I break a habit, I'm like "Oh, this is fine. I am still 'the person that does this habit', I haven't regressed, I'm still on the exact same journey that I've been on this whole time, and I'm not restarting because there's nothing to restart, I'm just getting back on track."
I personally find this mental framing to make it a lot less daunting when shit happens, as it tends to do. Imagining that you've fallen all the way back down the mountain, when in reality you just paused the climb for a little, makes resuming the positive habits seem exhausting and makes missing a few days intensely demoralizing.
yeah!!! good way of putting it :)