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How do I stop a crush from developing further? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by throwawaysalami@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I think I got a crush on my dance instructor. Which fucking sucks for all the obvious reasons. Normally I wouldn't be so worried. BUT I JUST HAD A GODDAMN ROMANTIC DREAM ABOUT HER. Seriously I just woke up from a dream about her confessing her love to me and me eagerly doing the same about her.

So how do you stop a crush from developing further? Because this is a well from which only disappointment may be drawn.

Edit: I am single btw.

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[-] andrewrgross@slrpnk.net 101 points 9 months ago

Try actively steering your fantasy past the peak of infatuation and into the latter stages of a relationship and on to breakup.

Right now, you have intrusive thoughts about falling in love with them, and probably the excitement of getting to know someone intimately. Instead of trying to hold back, let that fantasy play out in your head further. Imagine moving in, imagine them not getting you when you're explaining your problems. Imagine liking them, but finding their bad habits increasingly intolerable, and never being able to pick a movie to watch. Imagine them not flushing the toilet and clogging the shower drain with hair. And then imagine meeting someone new, and feeling guilty about crushing had on them. Imagine this new person reciprocates, and imagine politely explaining to your dance instructor that you guys can stay friends but, the romance has run it's course.

And there you are. The itch is scratched, and in your mind they're just a friend again.

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 38 points 9 months ago

Holy shit, you're a mad genius! Definitely gonna try this! thanks!

[-] sbv@sh.itjust.works 27 points 9 months ago

I'm 90% sure your instructor is a compulsive nose picker.

[-] gilokee@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

me too

[-] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 9 months ago

I heard that your instructor uses windows (🤢)

[-] WhiteHawk@lemmy.world 15 points 9 months ago

How else would they get fresh air in their room?

[-] tuxtey@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

More concerned from the stalker perspective

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