[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 38 points 9 months ago

Holy shit, you're a mad genius! Definitely gonna try this! thanks!

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

I'm single. But I think I'm still just gonna go find a new dance instructor if my crush on her won't settle down.

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 11 points 9 months ago

If she is a dance instructor, she is probably no stranger to having her pupils develop feelings for her.

But this just makes it worse. Cause you're probably right. Which would make me feel even more like a schmuck. Yeah I think I'm just gonna go find a new instructor.

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 24 points 9 months ago

I see the crush as a separate entity from myself. The crush sees them as some unrealistic ideal superhuman, which falls apart when I take time to find out who the actual person is.

That's pretty damn well put.

This assumes you have opportunities to casually chat without planning time specifically, or you can be in a regular part of group conversations.

There is maybe a tiny window. But it's worth a shot.

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Yeah that's actually not that bad of an idea. If things go south I'll use this as a last resort. Change dance studios that is.

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

So it's either quit dancing or develop romantic feelings for her? Q.E.D. I'm fucked.

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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by throwawaysalami@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

I think I got a crush on my dance instructor. Which fucking sucks for all the obvious reasons. Normally I wouldn't be so worried. BUT I JUST HAD A GODDAMN ROMANTIC DREAM ABOUT HER. Seriously I just woke up from a dream about her confessing her love to me and me eagerly doing the same about her.

So how do you stop a crush from developing further? Because this is a well from which only disappointment may be drawn.

Edit: I am single btw.

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