In the two decades I've lived, I can't begin to tell you how many times I've seen people flock to the wrong people, often at the expense of innocent people caught in the crossfire, and then brush off whatever looks like it could challenge their familial/platonic/etc. standing. It played into one past question of mine that ultimately got misunderstood in some ways. I see it in the bureaucratic world, I see it in the personal world, everyone just thinks strangers must suffer the one third of a two thirds compromise. It's all formulaic (well, except for the time a CPS leader my old community says they hate ended up running for mayor and winning).