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What's the smartest or most insightful thing you figured out as a kid that stays with you today? (lemmy.world)

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[-] EndOfLine@lemmy.world 40 points 9 months ago

I used to spend a lot of energy being concerned what other people thought of me. How I dressed, how I acted, what I owned, etc. One day I realized 2 things:

Most people are too busy thinking about themselves to spare any meaningful thoughts for me.
I'm never going to see most of these people ever again so it doesn't matter what they think.

After that I started directing that energy into making sure that I approved of my choices rather than hoping strangers would.

[-] THE_MASTERMIND@feddit.ch 4 points 9 months ago

It has a name its called spotlight effect

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 9 months ago

Some people have decided to call it the spotlight effect

[-] THE_MASTERMIND@feddit.ch 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I just wanted to let op know its a thing and there are others with it and there are resources

[-] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago

Why are you wearing those pants?

Why aren't you more like your father?

Why haven't you liked and subscribed?

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