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submitted 1 year ago by prenupbutter@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I fell for someone who lives in a different country. We met while he was passing through mine, and then he later changed some of his travel plans to come back and see me again.

We saw each other every single day for over a month, he met most of my friends, we went on trips together and overall he was very loving and did all kinds of things that made me feel like we had something that could last beyond a fling. He told me he would be back again.

His feelings changed not long after he went back home, and he only admitted it to me once I confronted him after noticing him become more and more distant over 2 months. He said he found it hard to stay emotionally invested in someone so far away.

I get that long distance is hard and that people's feelings change. I just didn't think he'd lose feelings for me so easily. It hurts more than ending a relationship that has slowly burned out over time, because I just can't make sense of how quickly this happened. And I think a large part of why I got so attached is because I very rarely meet guys I'm genuinely interested in, let alone ones that treat me well.

Have any of you gone through something similar? If so, how did you cope with it? Was there anything that made it easier to accept, or do I just need to let time do its thing? I have a bunch of important things to finish this week and have already lost so much time crying lol.

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[-] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 14 points 1 year ago

I had to quit my job not long ago to recover from burnout, and for some reason I decided to start using Arch btw even though I'm a kind of a linux noob (maybe as a more acceptable form of self-harm) and spent the next month locked away to tinker with it.

My setup is pretty much complete now, so I guess I'll just focus on growing a beard this time. Thanks for the great tips!

The beard has to extend to your neck. Very important.

[-] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Cut a newbie some slack! No one told me I had to use Arch as my first distro, I started with Ubuntu. Couldn't a 5 o'clock shadow suffice as a start?

[-] refurbishedrefurbisher@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

https://files.catbox.moe/rujkc7.jpg

According to this chart, a 5 o'clock shadow would make you a SteamOS user. SteamOS is based on Arch, though, so... it's a wash.

This could be an alternative: https://files.catbox.moe/7g2wmz.jpg

[-] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago

LMAO I'm on Fedora and that beard matches mine exactly. What sort of wizardy...

The chart never lies, except for the times that it lies.

[-] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Oh my god there's a chart? Lmaooo

[-] mrmanager@lemmy.today 4 points 1 year ago

Haha no problem. :) It's a great distro. And you know the old joke...

  • How do you know someone is using arch?
  • They will tell you.

:)

[-] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

It's a great distro

I'll agree once I can figure out how to at least get my laptop suspend on idle. Why are there no clear docs on it???

[-] cole@lemdro.id 2 points 1 year ago

what desktop environment are you using.. my laptop works great on Arch.

i use arch btw

[-] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Using bspwm because I wanted even more keyboard shortcuts to remember 🥴

[-] cole@lemdro.id 2 points 1 year ago

I'm on the Gnome train myself

[-] mrmanager@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago

There should be. What graphics card dom you have? Usually these issues are caused by using Nvidia since they don't care about Linux and the driver is closed source.

[-] prenupbutter@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Ya I have Nvidia, but afaik the reason suspend on idle doesn't work is because there's nothing sending idle hints to systemd and I haven't found any resources on how to do that. I still have so much to learn ;__;

[-] mrmanager@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago

This stuff is tricky and we all just follow wikis and try to fix things like that. We can't all be kernel developers. :)

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