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Does anyone else vacillate between feeling hot (attractive) and repellant?

Some days I feel like all the women around me find me desirable, and other days I feel like none of them do. I rarely feel 'in between'.

I don't really like feeling either extreme. For one thing, I don't trust either feeling! Feeling unattractive is obviously a bad feeling, but feeling ultra attractive is also bad. It leads me to uncomfortable fantasies and an inability to distinguish normal interactions from flirtation.

Does anyone else feel like this?

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[-] electric_nan@lemmy.ml 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Respectfully, that isn't it. I'm a grown person-- mid forties, admittedly neurotic. I have a full time job in an office. I have a small group of close friends, and I've been married for over 20 years. I recognize that this issue I have has to do with my self-image, and that these aren't trustworthy feelings. I'm not under socialized.

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