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that is always my instinctual reaction too and why i was harsh in my reply to her, however i recognise it is much more complicated than that.
again why someone tries to remind you of their birthday can be because of many reasons. Maybe it is a male, and you are the only person that remembered it last year and accidentally he let fear take a hold of the keyboard. Maybe it is someone that is always used to getting best wishes and let audacity take hold of their keyboard.
It is spoken expectations that sour a relationship, but fulfilling unspoken expectations is a the relationship.
when you expect people to not break contact you might not be compatible with people who expect that they can come and leave.
But it is okay to have different types of expectations for different people.
It is okay to adapt to someone elses unspoken terms somtimes, you will find that many beautifull people can be very hard to communicate with.
"Nobody is entitled to your words or actions or time". I ofcourse do not know the full context but that sounds like the porogative of the person the main post is about.
When marching to a just victory be aware of the trail you leave.
I have force quite relationships by pressing x goodbye and i have stopped talking to people. I only regret the force quit cuz i also coulda just not talked to him for a while and he could return someday.then there wouldn't even be any stress.
there are times and places for people also tries to convey die or nothing mentalities may close doors, only to satisfy the need to be recognised.
What I mean is wishing someone a happy _____ is a courtesy we do for each other. I dont consider it something anybody is entitled to or to throw a huge fit if someone doesn't fall in line or reaches out "too late" or whatever. Its never an excuse to be a Bridezilla and people who want to act like that, I simply don't want to be around. Its a very useful heuristic honestly.
We've never had this issue. He wished on mine, I wished on his. End of story. It just happens to be useful because he always has done so which means its a useful indication for what the situation is. If he doesn't reach out, thats the first time ever so thwt tells me this isn't likely a fluke but that he blocked me, he means for me to not be able to contact him, and I have one less birthday + fake friend to need to attend to. Its honestly just as well, I don't want flaky people like that who can't even let you know how they feel and give everyone closure.