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Asking a girl out for comic book store date?
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this post was submitted on 16 Mar 2024
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Yes, and we’re all very excited to meet your many girlfriends when they get back from their vacation to Canada.
In the meantime, OP can use his time during his outing to the comic book store to have escalating romantic encounters, both verbal and non-verbal, to communicate his intent rather than clumsily brow-beating his companion with his intentions like a ham-fisted child.
Look, if he treats his companion like an equal, with respect, she’ll know that he respects her and that he thinks of her as more than an object… as another person capable of thinking and making up her own mind. He will also come off as cool and confident. All that your advice will do is make him come off as insecure, single-minded, and i condensate of her as a person with her own mind, too simple to think for herself. All of these things are a massive turn-off.
Lol I'm married...must be because I live in Canada where all the girlfriends live. I also went to "the other school, you haven't heard of it"! Lmao
I think you're mistaken that adding the word "date" when asking someone out would be inherently negative. Definitely not insecure -- asking for what you want and being able to take "no" for an answer is a sign of strong emotional maturity.
I would argue that wanting a date and not making it clear when asking is inconsiderate of the woman's feelings. If she wants a friendship and not a relationship, but he only wants a relationship...but he makes it seem like he wants friendship...that feels almost deceptive.
Again, it really comes down to what OP wants and doesn't want, and is/isn't okay with.
I didn’t come here to discuss you. And I’m done discussing you. I came here to answer this kid’s question, and I have.
If you want to discuss your personal… stuff… you can pay people for that. I have zero interest.
You might want to re-read your last couple of comments in this chain then, where you were (I guess) trying to take jabs at me to make your point seem stronger, or something? Lol
If you decided to interpret criticism of your advice to OP personally, I can’t control that. Again, I’m not here to discuss your personal issues, and, especially, to soothe your ego.
Edit: also, I didn’t (how could I?) know that you actually live in Canada. I did make a quip adjacent to the “I have a girlfriend! She just lives in Canada!” trope, to express my incredulity in the comment the preceded it, and that was juvenile— for that I apologize.