I’m not sure where you live, but I know plenty of guys who operate like this unfortunately. Parenting/caregiving is still deeply gendered and a lot of men do not equally share the burden, which also translates into more frustration when things “aren’t working” because they aren’t used to dealing with kids (in particular tantrums at any age, but broader emotional needs as well) as much as their partners generally are.

There has definitely been a lot of progress lately sure but we have a long way to go.