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How do you stop making excuses?
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this post was submitted on 27 Mar 2024
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That might work once or twice but if you're apologising 10 times a day, I don't think you're getting off that easy.
Then work on that.
An apology is just that - an apology, not an explanation.
Who wants to hear someone's excuses "ten times a day"?
If you're fuckin up that much, you got a lot of work to do to not fuck up so much.
This is worse than useless advice for someone with ADHD that can’t mitigate their procrastination in a way that is acceptable to the people around them and you should be ashamed of yourself for giving it to someone who is hurting and doing everything within their power to stop procrastinating.
The entire point of apologies being hard is that nobody ever wants to hear them. That doesn’t change that sometimes sincerely apologizing is literally all we can do, promising it won’t happen again is just an empty lie.
Talking about in the meantime. Working on this bullshit takes years if not decades. In the meantime, I have to react SOMEHOW when I fuck up, meaning I can apologise or try to explain what went wrong so the other person doesn't think I'm a total piece of shit AND apologise.