Glad to hear you had some good mates to call out the BS. Having grown up in what many people would call the best possible environment available, including myself, I will tell you that calling that shit out is drilled into us from an early age, and most of us still have a very difficult time telling someone else they are being an asshole. I'm guilty of it. There have been many times in my adult life that I should have said something, and didn't. There have been many others, but fewer, where I have.