That's the thing. No one's really in control of themselves. Some people have more or less control over different aspects, but we're limited by default, not free by default. I kind of knew this was the case scientifically, but being trans forced me to understand this truth at a deeper level.

I wouldn't say I'm the source of my being trans anymore than I'm the source of my heartbeat orr DNA. I am the "source of everything about me," but that concept of source doesn't tell me much. I'm no more the source of this issue than we're the source of all possible issues.