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No, if they want a facebook account they will have to wait until they are 18!
I'm not arguing with your parenting style or saying you're doing it wrong etc etc, I agree with it in theory but I'd like to share my younger sisters story.
My mum decided she couldn't have social media until she was "old enough" to protect her, this however caused her to end up getting a secret phone and create secret social media accounts. This eventually led to her being cyber bullied by students at her school who's parents were less cautious. But because she was doing all of this secretly as her mum had said no to social media, she didn't feel like she could get the support she needed. Fortunately she had an older brother who could help her, but I couldn't go to the school for her as I'm not her guardian.
I personally after this would lean into the world of not necessarily supervised social media usage, but educating and cautioning what it means to post on social media. How it will never go away and when it's there, it's there forever.
My sister fully understands this now and is doing alot better, but ultimately the damage is done.
I fully understand the point of view of no social media until 18, I just want you to be aware of potential consequences of being strict on it.
I don't think you can really control kids after 12-13. If they really want something or their friends are all doing something then they can figure it out at that age, whether it's the internet or drugs or whatever
Even if they don't create a secret account, they get left out of groups, and probably mocked because everyone else is doing it. Not being able to do things that everyone else does when you're a kid sucks. My wife and I were just talking a couple nights ago about how we're glad we didn't have to deal with that with our kid. We probably would have said no, which would have caused our kid some issues for sure.
I've heard of people having success.eiyh setting up an account for the family pet and friending their kids and friends before they are old enough to understand the concept of sharing online.allows you to keep tabs on them unobtrusively and can obviously deactivate or defined as appropriate when they age.
Hopefully though, I stead, you'll teach them how to use privacy controls to not allow you to see, when they are old enough that it's appropriate.
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