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  • My knee still doesn't feel right after that hiking trip two weeks ago.
  • I started listening to really old music.

Have I crossed the threshold?

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[-] livus@kbin.social 73 points 7 months ago

Nope, you're describing not being young, that's nothing like being actually old. Growing old has a bunch of stages:

  • joint pain

  • can no longer dance all night

  • hangovers last all day

  • dentists start talking to you about your gums

But then you get to the phase of

  • skin losing elasticity

  • liking dinner parties

  • marijuana is now a medicine

  • developed distinct preferences about stuff like threadcount

And then after that the next phase is more like

  • a lot of time worrying about your parents

  • all body fat migrates to one or two of its favourite spots

  • seriously consider putting everything on lanyards

  • your favourite singers are all dead

And so on, you get the picture. That's as far as I've traveled but as far as I can see the phases after that involve things like bladder leakage and losing friends to alzheimers.

[-] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 7 months ago

I'm getting toward the last, my favorite singers are dying. My wife and I just saw the B-52s in concert. They are in their mid seventies. They were in their thirties when I started listening to them. Ugh.

[-] The_Che_Banana@beehaw.org 12 points 7 months ago

Good god I have tickets to see AC DC next month....

[-] veroxii@aussie.zone 5 points 7 months ago

Shook me early in the evening long.

[-] The_Che_Banana@beehaw.org 6 points 7 months ago

Highway to (Nursing) Home

[-] tetris11@lemmy.ml 3 points 7 months ago

Downpayment Blues (but yes really)

[-] pescetarian@lemmy.ml 2 points 7 months ago

😁,Because they are younge!

[-] mdhughes@lemmy.ml 17 points 7 months ago

Multiple of your friends have cancer, died of cancer, or of other illnesses. But mostly the cancer.

You wonder if your bowels are OK. They are not.

[-] Swallowtail@beehaw.org 2 points 7 months ago

Seeing a lot of my dad's friends starting to drop off has hit me and made me prize my own relationships more. Every day is a choice you make for what you prioritize.

[-] rzlatic@lemmy.ml 9 points 7 months ago

fuck, this is accurate. i recognized myself in everything you wrote. (age 50ies)

[-] livus@kbin.social 2 points 7 months ago

Glad it's not just me!

[-] VaultBoyNewVegas@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I worried about my mum constantly since I was only 14/15, she had heart disease and died three years ago at 54. My dad also has heart problems, copd, diabetes, psoriasis and arthritis in his hands. He's only 55 and I don't know if he'll even live to retirement age. I'm only 27.

Edit: Should've included this. I also have ulcerative colitis which is a form of IBD Irritable Bowel Disease and I do shit myself several times a year) so my bowels are fucked already. Again I'm only 27. By your metrics I've met two of the conditions to be old due to shite luck with the roll of the dice of life.

[-] Carighan@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

I grew up with my grandparents. And while my grandpa has been dead for years, lately I'm acurely aware how my grandma - now 91 - doesn't have much time left. She had a few really close calls already, and covid was absolutely not nice to her health when she got it.

[-] livus@kbin.social 1 points 7 months ago

Sorry friend, that sounds really hard. I'm really sorry you lost your mum.

Someone I knew with colitis said it calmed down by itself after about a decade, so I hope that happens to you.

[-] VaultBoyNewVegas@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

I'm hoping it calms down when I get out on a different medication. The new one I'm on doesn't seem to be working despite the fact according to the manufacturer it should start working in 48 hours and I should've noticed a gradual difference at this point and it should work fully within 3 weeks. Anyway there's a specialist nurse that's my main point of contact for care for it and she wants to put me on a biologic that's taken as an IV drip which would mean I'd see an improvement quickly. The consultant that makes the decisions and has the final say disagrees and wants me still on the one that doesn't seem to work. I'm in hospital again after only leaving a month ago and my symptoms are worse today so the current treatment that I'm on in hospital may not be working so the nurse might end up winning the argument. I'm hoping she does because I'd love to get rid of the flare I've had since January and feel like normal again.

[-] pescetarian@lemmy.ml 0 points 7 months ago

It is treated, it's better to go on a diet, for example VLCD or something (go to pubmed) ⚠️Аnd of course, consult a doctor before dieting.

[-] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

I remember my mom telling me about phases of life as she experienced them:

  • All your friends start getting married, you go to a lot of weddings
  • All your friends start having kids, you go to a lot of baby showers
  • Many of your friends start getting divorced, and you have to deal with trying to be friends with the former couple separately
  • Many of your friends get married a second time, weddings again
  • Many of your friends start having grandkids

At the time she concluded with "Some those were hard, but it was all okay. But now, all my friends are dying..."

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

My mom once planned a trip up to my city with some of her friends to see a concert, they made plans a few weeks out but by the time the day arrived, she was coming up for two funerals, the group was smaller by two people. She told me "can't make long range plans when you are old, go see people right away because if you wait they might be dead!"

[-] Carighan@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

Yeah, for me the big thing wasn't even that my belly is becoming more and more of an issue despite my weight being the same, it was how how many cancer checkups are all of a sudden free and done regularly and how doctors always do a routine full checkup no matter why I went there. (am 40+)

[-] MrsDoyle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 months ago

Stage one: Effortful noise when rising from a low chair/sofa

Stage two: Inability to rise from a low chair/sofa. Beanbag? Nooooo….

My own turning point was finding myself unable to get out of the bath by just standing up. It was comic but also terrifying. I eventually worked out I could lever myself up with my arms. Phew.

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