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How should I change my polite behavior to be more accommodating?
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I'm from NZ so my go to is "mate" but having lived in the UK and Ireland for nearly ten years, holy crap do they have you covered with many fantastic options...
Darling - this is what old ladies at my local supermarket checkout prefer in East London. Dear - similar to above it is probably supposed to be said to someone younger than you Love - pronounced "Luv" is all England I think Boss - (or Bossman - but not relevant here) is a widespread London one. Duck - Often used in the Midlands, particularly around Derbyshire and Nottinghamshire. Pet - the North East, such as in Newcastle. My lover - the South West, particularly in Bristol and surrounding areas. Gaffer - maybe Irish?
The more obviously gendered ones are actually extensive too like Hen, Babs, Babes, Son, Chick, Flower, Laddie, Lassie, Bonnie, Doll.
Honourable mention for Twat - when you don't want to be polite.
People who grew up here will have even more. To them I say, have I passed the Home Office "Life in the UK" test now?
With flying colours, me old strumpet
Poppet is my fave, Midlands I think
Nothing like going into a rough pub in Sheffield, and having the landlord ask, "what'll it be love?"
These are amazing. I've only heard a few of them before!
All of these, maybe with the exception of duck and gaffer, if said in North America would be either not seen as gender neutral, or would be especially creepy if a man used it.
That's cos yous are professional offence-takers ๐
Cos yer ma didn't pay you enough attention as bairns
Or they just have different connotations here. Would it be acceptable for a man to go up to a woman he's never met before and say "I'm in love with you" while she's just doing her job? If you say yes, I have to wonder who of us was really raised wrong.
On what fucking planet would a sane bloke ever do that?!?
Oh, wait, you don't have accessible mental healthcare for most people. As you were ๐
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