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[-] qjkxbmwvz@startrek.website 86 points 6 months ago
[-] Death_Equity@lemmy.world 69 points 6 months ago

An invasive and life threatening surgery in a third-world country sounds easier.

[-] nxdefiant@startrek.website 38 points 6 months ago

If you're a woman on earth, there's a good chance having kids will be that too!

[-] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

I tried to think of a comeback about how safe caesareans are, but then remembered when my wife said she started feeling faint during hers and the brick I shat as a response.

[-] nilloc@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 6 months ago

I saw the suction containers during my wife’s C section. I wish I hadn’t seen the suction containers.

Also I went around to see the baby and basically saw them frantically stuffing my wife’s insides back in. At least that’s where my imagination went after 27 hours of labor and a brief glance at an emergency c section.

[-] Death_Equity@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

Free contraception, physical sterilization, and abortions for all who knowingly consent.

Elect me God Emperor of the world for life and I will ensure that no woman will have to endure pregnancy or birth and will be paid $100,000 for their sacrificing motherhood with permanent sterilization. Humanity relies on women for our future and no woman should have to bear that burden.

[-] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Maybe give that money to women who choose to have a child, they definitely need it more.

[-] TheSun@slrpnk.net 9 points 6 months ago

This but unironically

[-] Albbi@lemmy.ca 27 points 6 months ago

Can confirm. Go to bed at 9pm and wake up at 5am... and 11pm to change a diaper and 1am to give a bottle and 3am for no reason whatsoever.

[-] qjkxbmwvz@startrek.website 8 points 6 months ago

Hopefully you end up doing a better job sleep training than us! Toddler does not go down without a fight.

[-] Ioughttamow@kbin.run 6 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Our neighbors get their kid who’s a bit younger than ours down by 7. Ours stays up till 9 if she’s tired… sometimes 11 if she’s not…

[-] Tylerdurdon@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago

That's the nature of the relationship right out of the box (so to speak). Part of it is distinguishing between "I really need something" and "I don't want to do this." Our youngest is 2 now and it takes time to get there, but he goes to bed at 8pm.

At first, you go to bed with them, on the ground and you let them cry it out. Once they get used to the routine, things will go much faster but that first week is tough. Routine is also the key. We do bath, reading, bed. Our oldest has snuck in there a bunch of items, but it's the same routine every night. Getting back to the sleep training, after that first week and they get used to it, you can start just dropping them in there, hanging out a minute, and walking out. This too will be met with protest at first, but you let them cry it out and it stops pretty soon after. Ours occasionally yells when going to bed at first, but most of the time we just hear him talking until he drops out.

Sleeping through the night takes time, but the main thing is to try to feed a lot before bed. Naps in the day shouldn't be too long either, but are still key to brain development.

[-] sushibowl@feddit.nl 5 points 6 months ago

There's a really nice article on sleep training over at the BBC. It's a long read, but the bottom line is that the research on sleep training effectiveness is sketchy at best. Sometimes short term benefits are shown, mostly for the parents (children still wake up, parents just don't realize). but it's very difficult to remove biases when people's children are involved. There also seems to be a large variance between children and what works for one will not work for all.

The good news is that in the long term it doesn't seem to matter much. Sleep trained or not, a large majority of children are able to sleep through the night at 20 months old.

[-] Tylerdurdon@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

I've done it 3 times and our results work, but for each their own. I was just sharing how.

I have friends that have struggled though. A couple I know still have their 7 year old crawling into their bed every night. A different couple have their son showing up at 3am and gets them up.

Consistent lack of sleep can have detrimental effects both physically and mentally. We manage a good night's rest the vast majority of the time (sickness or other outliers being the exception).

[-] Albbi@lemmy.ca 4 points 6 months ago

We actually hired two sleep training consultants. The second one after my wife was so exhausted we just wanted some hope. Neither was worth the money but the 2nd one felt the most like a ripoff.

My son is almost 4 now and has been sleeping a lot better for quite a while now thankfully. I think I have gotten enough brains back to finish my PhD.

[-] Socsa@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 months ago

I am now imagining you punching a baby to sleep every night

[-] hemmes@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago

Yeah that didn’t work for me. Just made it harder on my “fall asleep on the couch from 12am until 3am then wake up and goto bed until work at 5:30am” routine.

[-] Socsa@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 months ago

Can I just rent one for a bit?

[-] OneStepAhead@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 6 months ago

Heck, I’ll pay you to come play with them so I can poop without them wanting to climb all over me.

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