@LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone has it correct. I do not disagree with the sentiment of that comment at face value but the comment and the discussion that follow constitute men talking over women expressing their lived experiences.

As a community and a society, there is certainly room for tone policing and discussing how best to express the terms of our oppression. But that discussion should never be forced in at the very moment a person or group has found the courage to speak their own stories, which is what happened there.