Nobody deserves to be stalked or doxxed, and anybody doing that is in the wrong.

As a separate point, just from what I can see on your profile now, you have put a remarkable amount of identifying information in your Lemmy posts. I’m pretty cavalier about the possibility of someone connecting my account to my identity, but you are orders of magnitude beyond anything I would feel personally comfortable posting. I seriously believe you can protect yourself from these things if you modify your posting habits.

For example, you have photos of your face posted, high school photos that could be shared on other people’s social media, current photos of your head and identifying features, pictures of bills that identify local businesses you use (you didn’t black everything out successfully)…that was just what I noticed in about 10 seconds of glancing. With reverse image searches, it would be trivial to find some of those photos on a classmates Facebook where you have been tagged with your real name.

As a general rule, never post personal media to Lemmy that you intend to post somewhere else (or that someone else may post who can identify you). Once a photo appears in two places, it becomes a lot easier to start connecting dots.