I don't really like that the feminist stance on cis marriage is that women should keep their own surname rather than taking the man's (hexbear.net)

submitted 5 months ago by ProfessorOwl_PhD@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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Why can't it be something fun like swapping surnames and then creating a portmaneau or blended name for the kids.

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[-] ReadFanon@hexbear.net 45 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

"We should reject the patriarchy and refuse to adopt our husband's surnames as our own!""

"Right on!"

"We must take back what is ours and overthrow men's dominance over women. We should fight to keep our maiden names."

"Yeah!!
Wait a sec - we're going to reject the cultural practice of taking on our husband's surnames and we're going to keep the ones that we were born with?"

"Exactly!"

"So we will keep the surnames that our fathers gave us in order to reject the patriarchy?"

"I... uhh... hang on, let me check my notes here."

(I'm not shitting on anyone who chooses to do this btw; you do you. After all you aren't property to be transferred from one owner to another. I'm just illustrating why bourgeois feminism is a dead end and why Marxist feminism is the only real path forward for women's liberation.)

[-] utopologist@hexbear.net 10 points 5 months ago

When my ex and I got married, we picked a new surname that we both liked but didn't have any connection to. We're not together anymore but I have no plans to return to my original name b/c I still like it and basically all of my friends and colleagues know me by the current name