Ugh, my poor wife; I've had a number of bad experiences because I'm so fundamentally stubborn. In the dream, I won't be able to do something, and I'll work and work at it, and sometimes succeed in real life. It's been as simple and benign as not being able to see in a dream and struggling to open my eyes until I finally do, and I wake up. But I've managed to yell with a mouth that didn't completely work, so my wife woke up to what sounds like a yelling, mournful ghost. I've managed to fight and punched my wife. I've managed to run, and kicked her. In all these cases, in the dream, I've had to really struggle to do the thing before I succeed and wake myself up.

Sleep paralysis turns out to be a good thing.