Hexbear lore: The "power dynamics" thread (hexbear.net)

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[-] booty@hexbear.net 15 points 5 months ago

I know how to solve the debate once and for all. Just go through the thread and tally up everyone who is banned vs everyone who is still here. Whichever side has more people remaining on the site must have been correct. blob-no-thoughts

Seriously though this is one of the few "struggle sessions" you can find my comments in because obviously this take is correct, if everyone involved is above like 25 and mature enough then fine date whoever you want, idc if the gap is 30 and 95. But if you're above the age of 25 and dating a teenager that is a child and you belong in the barbara-pit

[-] Thordros@hexbear.net 12 points 5 months ago

I have always maintained that the "am I definitely a fucking paedo if I am dating this person?" measurement is

ROUNDUP( [YOURAGE] / 2 + 7 )

At least until everybody is 25 or older—then age matters a lot less than other power dynamics (wealth, social connections, etc.).

[-] KhanCipher@hexbear.net 1 points 5 months ago

Honest question, let's say you're a 29M who has never dated before or anything remotely close to it, and rather suddenly you have a 18F going around asking other people about you and generally sending the vibe that they want to date you, what should you do?

I'm asking because that actually happened to me, and I decided to just go along with it because partly why not and my dating life wasn't going to get any better doing with me nothing anyways.

[-] booty@hexbear.net 1 points 5 months ago

Well, I'll do ya one better. If I, right now, at 24 years old, suddenly attracted the attention / infatuation of an 18 year old child, I would maybe be flattered and find it amusing and let her down gently, assuring her that she can certainly find a suitable partner among her peers. An 18 year old child is either in high school or freshly out of high school, almost certainly still living with their parents, most likely has never worked full time or had to worry about supporting themselves, does not have the life skills or experience to be an appropriate partner for me. We are in different stages of our lives.