The problem I had with this is that it's an apathy that he himself had until recently, and now he's a smug prick hating on his wife for not being cool enough to break the law like he does.

He never tells her what he's doing. He believes he can't. So instead of trying to communicate, and dealing with the fallout of a difficult discussion, he just judges her for being who he was.

It's still a dick move no matter how it's justified!