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I mean, for some people, it is. When you're exploring your identity, you don't always get it right on your first try. Just like there are people who are convinced they're straight that are actually gay (or bi, or pan, or what have you). Though that is far more common, largely because of the societal pressures to conform to heteronormativity.
But then, perhaps that truly is Vance's case here. Maybe he actually is gay, and his whole... everything is just him trying desperately to convince himself otherwise.
Being gay is not a choice.
I'm aware of this, but again, people don't always figure themselves out the first time. We are messy beasts.
Right, but the reason he's saying this at all is to try and make the claim that it is a choice, and that he simply changed his choice. Not that he found his real self without societal pressure.
OK but that is not the same thing as making a choice to be gay. That is the entire point. What he said insinuates that it is a choice.
I guess what I'm saying is that I don't doubt the facts of the story, even if I doubt the conclusion he reached.