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this post was submitted on 05 Aug 2023
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This isn't even funny. my parents weren't that tech savvy and i learnt about porn from about 4th grade or so. parents need to be in control of what their children are browsing
Do you feel like you're a worse person for learning about porn at such a young age? I also learned about porn around that age (2nd~4th grade) and I feel like it had no impact on my life whatsoever as an adult.
The funny part of the post is referring to "teaching crabs how to read" as "forbidden knowledge"
It's not about making me a worse person. It lead to addiction. At first it was maybe once a week..then twice a week...every two days....and then to about 2-3 times in a day. It's hard to come out of it
IDK, teenagers masturbating a lot isn't only new since porn access has become ubiquitous... Humans can obviously get addicted to all kinds of things and might need help controlling that addiction.
The unrealistic expectations induced by porn have the capacity to negatively impact sex and relationships for generations. Nobody explains to kids that this is acting, that you should have mutual consent on what goes, and choking isn't required. To me that part is the even bigger danger.
If you’re talking about masterbating, then that’s not unusual or a bad thing necessarily. I didn’t encounter porn until late high school yet I would do that frequency as a younger kid. That’s normal for boys. What’s not normal is that you seem to have pathologized it.
Porn or sex addiction isn't a thing. In general, people who struggle with porn or sex are living in social environments that have pathologized them, and the struggle is in trying to conform to social expectations that make normal human experiences taboo.
I'm an old person. I learned about porn at age 4 from finding my parents' stash.
I'm curious, were you addicted to it later in life?
Dude, which birthday clown touched you?
No they're not, genius
I never worry about them. I made my point and that's enough i guess
There's a difference between passive blocking and surveillance. The former is a safety measure that's perfectly sufficient to keep bad stuff away. The latter is an invasion of privacy that has no benefit, and many unsavory consequences on a child's sense of trust and autonomy. Blockers are enough.
It is a safe assumption that every human, at the age of puberty, will search for porn or sonething similar. If not, your kid is asexual.
A blocker will prevent that search. You know that search will take place. Heck, you did it and at some point in time got away with it.
What possible purpose would you as a parent have for knowing the details of that search? That is just a gross invasion of a very private phase in development. You might as well add cameras to the bedroom to see if your kid, who is obviously past puberty, is masturbating (of course they are - checking on it is just disgusting and creepy).