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Dating in the modern world (lemmy.world)
submitted 10 months ago by Modva@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
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People keep telling me that dating today is a war zone, facing all kinds of challenges.

Dating apps don't seem to be directly trying to help solve the problem as much as generate revenue. In fact, they are very directly motivated to not make great long term matches.

Some people seem think that just getting out there and hoping for the best is the answer. Maybe that's true, but it's still very random. I was wondering about a hypothetical alternative:

What if you could go to an agency of some kind get rated through a thorough evaluation process? Would that be helpful ? It's not perfect, and many things are hard to measure. But maybe it's a less random starting point and can escape the exclusively money driven approach of dating apps.

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[-] viking@infosec.pub 6 points 10 months ago

What if you could go to an agency of some kind get rated through a thorough evaluation process?

Those agencies exist, but they all use some algorithms as well, nobody is doing matchmaking by hand. Usually they charge quite a fee to throw your name into the ring, so there's a bit of a (positive) selection bias in the sense that you don't have too many bottom feeders in the pool, but that doesn't make the dating experience any less exhausting.

I'm still thinking that interest-based hobby groups are the best way to find someone like-minded. At least you know from the onset that the person has one thing in common with you...

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