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Rant about "having ADHD is not an excuse for everything"
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Perhaps you can take solace in knowing that when you hear the phrase "good in a crisis" you can bet your ass that they only got that way by constantly fucking things up and making it work at the last second.
Those "planners" and people who can "remember things that aren't directly in front of their face" just freeze up like a deer in headlights when things go sideways.
Where do I learn the skill of remembering/noticing things that are directly in front of my face
If you can handle the things that aren't, we should team up.
Most of my brains bandwidth is used up by remembering things like that my passport is in that canvas bag half under my bed and that my birth certificate is in a specific stack of paper at my mums house in my former room. So yes, let's!
Perfect! I don't know where ANY of that shit is! You're hired!
There's also a subset of us that were exposed to random, horrific child abuse and developed crisis management skills early out of necessity.
When one of my sites had 2 feet of flooding in the server room and everyone was freaking out, I stepped in, downed the racks, cut the power, and began moving the equipment before my phone even rang.
They praised me for this but in my heart I knew it was nothing compared to having your bedroom door kicked off the hinges by a drunk, angry man four times your size at 3am because you dared to go to bed without emptying the dishwasher.
If I can survive that, no other crisis compares.