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What are some double standards in society for men ? (lemm.ee)

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For example workplace harrasment by women towards males like touching or groping being ignored because the victim is male but if it where to happen to a woman by a male the male would be fired

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[-] GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee 13 points 2 months ago

Ah, the "it's not about the nail" situation. https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg

[-] Technus@lemmy.zip 0 points 2 months ago

Well, kind of the exact opposite of that. I realize that's meant to be satire, but that kind of attitude is what got me into trouble.

I left out the exact details for brevity and privacy, but it was a situation where there wasn't a simple answer. I just didn't have a good grasp of the concept of active listening.

I was trying to engage with what she was saying, because she had previously told me that it seemed like I didn't care about her problems. But I just wasn't saying the right things.

In reality, my previous approach had revolved around keeping my mouth shut because then there was no way I could say anything to fuck it up. But then, in large part thanks to my undiagnosed ADHD, I would tune out without realizing it.

So I engaged in the only way I knew how, by trying to rationalize her experiences when I should have been empathizing with them.

[-] GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

So I engaged in the only way I knew how, by trying to rationalize her experiences when I should have been empathizing with them.

Ah, ok. I'm essentially the same as the person in the video. I didn't talk about something unless I want help and the situation fixed. Otherwise, I kept to myself, and I treated others the same. It was a rough young adulthood.

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