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Okay so what do you suggest I do. Cut out every single female friend in my life? Convince my single male friends, as a man in a relationship, to boycott online dating apps?
The only behavior uncommon enough to actually get away from are ethically non monogamous relationships and straight up cheating. That's 100 percent a red line for me at this point. Everything else is so ubiquitous that I'm basically forced to put up with it if I want to be social.
You just have to worry about being happy in the relationship you're actually in and not project these feelings of disrespectful non-monogamy on to others.
It's completely reasonable not to want to live in a society where infidelity or betrayal is normalized.
You're projecting your own feelings of betrayal onto others. This is a you problem.
Okay so what instances do you think are not betrayals? The only thing that I can see as subjective is the "roster", and I've had a good amount of single friends express their own feelings of betrayal on that.
Unless you're actually just getting salty on me calling out open relationships, in which case the betrayal is assumed because of the inevitable breakup.
Betrayal depends on the boundaries set within each relationship. In open relationships, there's no betrayal if all actions are consensual and agreed upon. It's about honesty and communication. Assuming all open relationships end in breakups ignores the reality that many people are happy in non-monogamous arrangements. Just because it’s not for everyone doesn’t make it wrong or destined to fail.