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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by UnaSolaEstrellaLibre@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.world

I started uni 2014 and I've still yet to finish it because of life BS. Dealing with depression / ADHD has made finishing my degree seem impossible for me to do and I feel like an absolute failure everyday because of it. I wasted many semesters attempting clases and then dropping out when my grades weren't good.

My parents both graduated by their early 20s and had me at 23; I'll be 29 soon and I still live with them working at a Walmart to make ends meet and even with that I'm about to be fired for poor performance. I feel depressed being there because I was given everything in life to be successful and yet I wasted my 20s away being depressed / suicidal. All of my friends all have graduated long ago and have better jobs and I get envious seeing them being successful. All I think about is splattering my brains all over the wall.

I don't have a plan to follow, every day I'm just hating myself for wasting my best years over stupid shit instead of focusing.

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[-] li10@feddit.uk 6 points 2 months ago

Why do you need a degree?

You can do well without one, maybe shift to looking at a career that doesn’t require one and suits what you want to do.

To put it bluntly, it sounds like you’re wasting time looking back at this point, rather than looking at what you can do from your current position.

I’ve been in a similar position and made good progress since I had a mindset shift, trying to let go of the regrets and focus on the small things I can do now instead.

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