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And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.

How the fuck am I supposed to tell what's just people doing things at random and what's a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call "social norms"? Down with NTs.

Honestly while it's really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it's basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.

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[-] Wertheimer@hexbear.net 34 points 2 months ago

I just learned this Persian word:

In the rules of hospitality, taarof requires a host to offer anything a guest might want, and a guest is equally obliged to refuse it. This ritual may repeat itself several times (usually three times) before the host and guest finally determine whether the host's offer and the guest's refusal are genuine, or simply a show of politeness.

The host is then expected to say one should not do taarof ("ta'arof nakon" - similar to "don't be polite!") for which the appropriate response would be to say "no" two or three times and then pretend to cave in to the host's insistence and pile on the food.

I suspect every culture has examples of this (we can find it everywhere from The Water Margin to Curb Your Enthusiasm), but it's nice to have a word for one of these neurotypical song-and-dance routines that even the neurotypicals haven't mastered.

[-] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 26 points 2 months ago

I hate this kind of shit so much. It reminds me of trying to leave family gatherings and getting stuck saying goodbye to people for an hour. Leave the theatrics for the stage and screen, I just want to say how I feel in the moment.

[-] Wertheimer@hexbear.net 20 points 2 months ago

Act I: Desperately trying to avoid being hugged

Act II: Explaining and apologizing for your ARFID for the millionth time as they try to feed you dubious regional cuisine

Act III: Desperately trying to navigate goodbyes

[-] ikilledtheradiostar@hexbear.net 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

The person leaving is number one priority for social interaction because people won't get a further chance for a while ( a subjective time frame for sure).

[-] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 13 points 2 months ago

Oh I definitely don't participate in this one. Sometimes I'll ask someone if they're sure, but if I want something you offer I'm sayin' so.

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