How do you square what you're saying with the very easy to find data (look it up) that says that trans people are disproportionately killed by a large amount and the easy to find laws being passed around the US using taxpayer money to specifically target trans people by denying them recognition and healthcare?

When trans people "relax the fuck out and just live life" they end up being denied jobs, medicine, and sometimes their life by bigots. What do you think they're supposed to do?