There's a difference between incendiary and attacking an individual.

I criticized the idea, called it stupid.

While that may be taken to be an attack on anyone that holds the idea, it is a different thing.

Now, people being stupid is kinda on the borderline, and I probably should have been more careful in my phrasing, but I did specify that it was about this subject, not all subjects, or even that holding the stupid opinion makes them inherently stupid. Plenty of otherwise great people hold stupid ideas.

Which is kinda relevant to the subject as well. The new singer being involved in a cult only means that she's stupid about that, not that there's anything else going on about her that's bad or dumb.

Also, my lemmy homie, tattling? The only way to maintain a given C/ or instance is to have clear statements of usage terms. Someone breaking those tarnishes the entire C/ or instance. Don't believe me? Hexbear. Lemmygrad. Lemmy.ml. Even lemmy.world. They catch shit all the time because people just ignore the rules/terms.

A very gentle reminder to someone being directly nasty to someone else in violation of those terms isn't tattling, and even if it was, that's why reporting exists on lemmy in the first place. Nobody can moderate everything solo. Reports are necessary for that.

And, again, instead of just being nasty back, despite multiple direct written attacks, all I did is remind them that what they're doing isn't acceptable based on terms they agreed to.

You don't want to get reported, don't do shit you agreed not to do. We're supposed to do that instead of getting into slap fights.