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Off My Chest: I just had a very long talk with my father (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago by Reverendender@sh.itjust.works to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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That ended with me finally explaining to him how the way he and my mother treated me as a child, with undiagnosed (and really not even conceptually understood at the time) ADHD caused me lasting trauma that persists to this day. I’m a 45 year old man, and I cried.

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[-] thebardingreen@lemmy.starlightkel.xyz 17 points 1 month ago

I feel like I'm having that conversation with my father all the time and he still doesn't get it.

The icing on that cake is that he totally has undiagnosed ADHD and PTSD, and he's a rich old white man so he gets to go through life ignoring the consequences (for other people) and saying things like "That's not my problem," when anyone calls him out.

[-] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Similar story. The old man was adhd/asd/ptsd and went through life a narcissist burning everyone around him, but it was never his fault when there were negative consequences. Hope you have better success, mine never really learned or accepted what he was doing.

E: damn autocorrect. It’d be better to leave it misspelled than the nonsense it puts out.

[-] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

I have doubts as to how much really sank in

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