Ya I walk my dog past a church and every Sunday when I see the crowd of people there I can't help but view them as a group of weird cultists, even though it's pretty vanilla Christianity.

This highlights a contradiction between Christianity and the modern secular world. Biblically speaking children are chattel property of their parents. In modern law children have their own universal set of human rights, so essentially by that model children belong to themselves and rightful guardianship goes to a succession of people if parents and family do not follow those rules.

But you see constant tension with this idea of child being property to do with as one pleases. It's also the history of why we use the term "disowned".

Having grown up under a model of parental stewardship where my parents always saw me as a person they were to train to become an autonomous adult I gotta say the difference between my family and my biblically raised neighbours is pretty stark. That kind of stability has had knock on effects throughout my entire life where I have become a life raft of sorts for friends of mine who grew up with religious trauma.